Learning to Play Again

Kathryn Smerling, PhD, LCSW

doi:10.5771/9781538183236

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Copyright year: 2024
ISBN-Print: 978-1-5381-8322-9
ISBN-Online: 978-1-5381-8323-6
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield, Lanham
Language: English
Pages: 126
Product type: Book Titles

1. Contents No access
2. Acknowledgments No access
1. Touch No access
2. Sight No access
3. Hearing No access
4. Back to Basics No access
5. The Meaning of C.A.R.E. No access
1. 1. Intelligence and Learning No access
  2. Social Relationships No access
  3. Happiness and Meaning No access
  4. Brain Health No access
  5. Read More No access
  6. Approach “Boring” Situations with a New Attitude No access
  7. Don’t Let Fear Prevent Curiosity No access
  8. Ask Questions No access
2. 1. Deep Breathing No access
  2. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation No access
  3. Body Scan Meditation No access
  4. Positive Visualization No access
  5. Practice Yoga No access
  6. Make Time to Reflect No access
  7. Write Down Your Thoughts and Feelings No access
  8. Ask Your Inner Circle No access
3. Resilience No access
4. 1. Listen Without Judgment No access
  2. Listen With Intention No access
  3. Listen Without Giving Advice No access
  4. Listen With Understanding No access
  5. Listen With Vulnerability. No access
5. 1. C Is for Curiosity No access
  2. A Is for Awareness No access
  3. R Is for Resilience No access
  4. E Is for Empathy No access
6. 1. Be Curious! No access
  2. Awareness Leads to Attunement No access
  3. The Power of Resilience No access
  4. Create Your Own Personal Acronym No access
1. Behavior Is Intentional No access
2. Simple Validation No access
3. 1. Self-Awareness Leads to Thanks No access
  2. Mindset: Appreciation No access
  3. Moving Forward . . . No access
  4. Repair Through Gratitude No access
  5. 1. 1. Observe. No access
    2. 2. Compare and Contrast. No access
    3. 3. Share. No access
    4. 4. Use your senses. No access
    5. 5. Use reminders. No access
    6. 6. Ask questions. No access
    7. 7. Be intentional. No access
    8. 8. Act out your gratitude. No access
    9. 9. Write it down! No access
1. The Art of Failure No access
2. What Is Failure? No access
3. Failure Is Never Fun No access
4. 1. Experience No access
  2. Knowledge No access
  3. Resilience No access
  4. Growth No access
5. 1. Ignore the Naysayers No access
  2. It’s Okay to Fail. But It’s Not Okay to Give Up No access
  3. Use Failure as Leverage No access
  4. Revisit Your Goals No access
  5. Create an Active Plan No access
6. The Importance of Self-Compassion No access
7. Reptile or Mammal? No access
8. Process Takes Practice! The Power of (Early) Childhood Habits for Adults No access
9. 1. Gather Perspective No access
  2. Reframe Our Failure No access
  3. Reboot Your Self-worth No access
  4. Remember What Success Means to You No access
  5. Take Calculated Risks No access
  6. Reacquaint Yourself with Your Creativity No access
  7. Focus on What You Can Control No access
  8. Find Help If You Need It No access
1. Repeating the Past No access
2. Taking Stock of Your Behavior No access
3. Change Is Hard No access
4. How Good and Bad Habits Form No access
5. You Are Not Doomed to Repeat the Past No access
6. Curbing Compulsions No access
7. History Repeats Itself No access
8. Why Therapy? No access
9. How to Write Your Own Script No access
1. Being A Good Role Model No access
2. The Role of Boundaries No access
3. Children and Empathy No access
4. Setting Boundaries Takes Practice No access
5. Being a Role Model No access
6. Role Models No access
7. Creating Accountability No access
8. It Starts Early No access
9. Cause and Effect: The Connection Between Accountability and Consequences No access
10. 1. Listen without Judgment No access
  2. Listen with Intention No access
  3. Listen without Giving Advice No access
  4. Listen with Understanding. No access
  5. Listen with Vulnerability No access
1. Who Are You? What Are You? No access
2. Positive and Negative Labels No access
3. We Are All Human No access
4. What About Gender and Pronouns? No access
5. Gender Identities and Their Definitions No access
6. Pronouns Matter. A Lot! No access
1. Conflict, Insights, and Solutions No access
2. How to Avoid Power Struggles No access
3. The Dangers of Controlling Behavior No access
4. Moving Beyond Constant Conflict No access
5. Active Listening and Effective Communication No access
6. Curiosity No access
7. Mirroring and Clarification No access
8. Strike When the Iron Is Cold No access
9. Setting Limits No access
10. Handling Stress No access
11. Protecting Your Children No access
12. Don’t Kick the Dog: How to Avoid Displaced Anger No access
13. 1. Do’s No access
  2. Don’ts No access
14. Mind, Body, and Spirit No access
1. Regression: When Adults Act Like Children No access
2. Strong and Hopeful No access
3. When Kids Regress: Signs and Solutions No access
4. Transitions No access
5. Playing with and Listening to Your Kids No access
6. Your Words Count No access
7. Always Tell the Truth No access
8. 1. Your Child’s Bill of Rights No access
9. It’s Your Turn Now No access
10. One Last Self-Reflection No access
11. 1. 1. Don’t Isolate No access
    2. Mind Your Anger No access
    3. Be Curious about Dating No access
    4. Get Good Legal Help No access
    5. Be Optimistic about the Future. No access
  2. 1. Take Time to Grieve the Loss of Your Relationship No access
    2. Your Kids Deserve Your Best Attention No access
    3. Beware of Forming Bad Habits No access
    4. Create New Boundaries with Your Ex-husband and Children No access
    5. Start Meeting New People As Soon As You’re Ready. No access
    6. Consult with an Attorney and Inquire about Your Rights No access
    7. Focus on a Positive Future for Yourself and Your Children No access
1. Identifying Triggers No access
2. 1. Count the Gifts No access
  2. Celebrate Yourself No access
  3. Move Your Body No access
  4. Create Little Moments of Joy No access
3. 1. Psychiatrists No access
  2. Psychologists No access
  3. Social Workers No access
  4. Clinical Nurse Specialists No access
  5. Pastoral Counselors No access
  6. Drug Counselors No access
4. 1. C Is for Curiosity No access
  2. A Is for Awareness No access
  3. R Is for Resilience No access
  4. E Is for Empathy No access
  5. Bonus Questions No access
5. 1. 1. 1. Do a body scan. No access
    2. 2. Hug or touch your partner. No access
    3. 3. Practice mindfulness. No access
    4. 4. Prioritize communication. No access
    5. 5. Look into your partner’s eyes. No access
  2. 1. 1. Look for meaning. No access
    2. 2. Think of a small picture. No access
    3. 3. Reframe your spiral. No access
    4. 4. Make daily room for a passion. No access
    5. 5. Set a goal outside your comfort zone. No access
    6. 6. Be present. No access
    7. 7. Confront your past: repeat or repair. No access
    8. 8. Choose authenticity. No access
    9. 9. Volunteer. No access
    10. 10. Re-connect with nature. No access
    11. 11. Make opportunities for laughter. No access
    12. 12. Seek out positive people. No access
1. Introduction No access
2. Chapter 1 No access
3. Chapter 2 No access
4. Chapter 3 No access
5. Chapter 4 No access
6. Chapter 6 No access
7. Chapter 7 No access
8. Chapter 8 No access
9. Conclusion No access
Index No access Pages 115 - 124
About the Author No access Pages 125 - 126