Finally imperfect: From perfectionism to lightness

Eileen Jacobs

doi:10.5771/9783869807874

Summary

Perfectionism is the fine line between ingenious brilliance and maximum overload, between authentic self-realisation and toxic continuous optimisation. But where does the tendency towards perfectionism come from? Why are so many women affected? And how can we free ourselves from the perfectionism trap? Eileen Jacobs provides answers to these questions. Using moving interviews and her own story, she illustrates how society, the social environment and the media drive women into perfectionism. She skilfully explores the abysses of the perfectionist spiral and illustrates ways to distance oneself from excessive perfectionism in order to realise life with healthy ease. And it doesn‘t take much. The first steps are very simple: be strong, be courageous, be authentic.

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Edition: 1/2025
Copyright Year: 2025
ISBN-Print: 978-3-86980-786-7
ISBN-Online: 978-3-86980-787-4
Publisher: BusinessVillage GmbH, Göttingen
Language: English
Pages: 204
Product Type: Monograph

Titelei/Inhaltsverzeichnis No access Pages 2 - 8
1. 1. My story No access
2. 2. Why I'm writing this book No access
3. 3. What you can expect in this book No access
1. 1. Am I a perfectionist? No access
2. 2. The good sides of perfect: brilliant, enthusiastic, inventive No access
3. 3. There is more than just one: What type of perfectionist are you? No access
4. 4. When only perfect results count No access
5. 5. Do you know invisible perfectionism? No access
6. 6. The perfection trap of self-optimization No access
7. 7. Perfectionism with a self-deprecating spiral: people pleasing No access
8. 8. From people pleasing to co-dependency No access
9. 9. When the impostor syndrome takes over No access
10. 10. Perfectionists fail more often than others No access
11. 11. Attention: Concentration on the perfect result devalues learning processes No access
12. 12. Why are perfect women often unhappy and sometimes ill? No access
13. 13. And now to you: explore your own state of mind with questions No access
1. 1. How societies and cultures teach us to be perfectionists No access
2. 2. Trust in society. Does that fit together? No access
3. 3. Queen of Control. Perfectionism in business No access
4. 4. Barbie: the female path to power versus reality No access
5. 5. We co-create the world in which we have to be perfect No access
6. 6. How families act as sources of perfectionism No access
7. 7. Not everything comes from outside. Our genes also play a role No access
8. 8. Your ego as the source of striving for perfection No access
9. 9. The comparison trap. Is the other one better thanme? No access
10. 10. Daily the feeling of guilt greets us. Women inconstant use No access
11. 11. And now to you: explore your own state of mindwith questions No access
1. 1. Everything begins with the yes to me No access
2. 2. Mindset change. Expose and sustainably change perfection traps No access
3. 3. Accept yourself as you are. Self-love makes everything easier No access
4. 4. Integrate. How to live the new you No access
Epilogue: How lightness and joie de vivre make you happy No access Pages 195 - 197
Literature No access Pages 198 - 204